Posted by JR, July 14, 2009
Hi I am hoping someone can give me some advice. I have been researching bipolar because I think my boyfriend has it. We lived together for over a year and had a very healthy and loving relationship. Suddenly about a month ago he decided to move out. He moved everything out very quickly with very little explanation except that he felt messed up in the head and needed to figure out what was going on in his head. I was completely shocked.
Both he and his family have told me that this has happened before. He said that the last time this happened it was about 3 or 4 years ago and that he was living with an ex then and did the exact same thing. They ended up getting back together but later the relationship ended. I just wonder if it really ended for the reason he told me it did. He said that when he gets this feeling he needs get away (almost change his life completely except for his job). His family also told me that this type of thing has been happening ever since he was in college.
It is very apparent to me that he is in a deep state of depression. A few weeks before the depression set in he was spending a lot of money. Just 2 examples are that he insisted on spending $200 on me in a matter of minutes at a dept store. Then a few days later we went to a casino, someplace he kept wanting me to go to with him. He ended up taking out $800 on his debit and credit cards, saying that he wanted me to have a good time since it was my 1st time there. I told him it was way too much and his response was “it’s just money…I’ll make more.” That was literally 9 days before he moved out.
The research tells me that he may have Bipolar 2. It also seems that he knows there is a problem because when he talked to me about it he said that he was going to see a doctor, but commented that he would fight any doctor that tries to put him on medication. He agreed to going to see a therapist, but I believe that he has not yet done that. I have not spoken with him in over 2 weeks at this point. When I have spoken to him his voice sounds strange, almost slurred-like speech. I also know that he has not communicated with any of his friends during this time either.
Can anyone give me any advice? My whole life has been turned upside down and it’s just devastating.