Posted July 30, 2008
After 6 years of a good marriage, my wife started acting very different and had an affair last summer which I found out about in August. We went to see our priest, who recommended us to a marriage councelor/psychologist. After a few sessions, he diagnosed my wife as BP and sent her to a psychyatrist who agreed and put her on Depakote.
I thought things were getting better, but found out in February that she had continued to see “Dom” on occassion and spoke with him on the phone several times a day. I called the psychologist. He felt bad for me, but told me that she was addicted to the self-medication, that being the fantasy life with “Dom.” She promised no more contact. In July, I found out that she continued to e-mail him from secret e-mail accounts and that they had both gone so far as to use fake names to hide it.
I am now thinking divorce is the only route I have left. I cannot take her staying in contact, and she is unable to stop. “Dom” is himself a school psychologist who knows she is under medical care and on Depakote. I plan to file an ethics complaint with the state, for what good it will do.