July 14, 2008
I am the mom of 3 adult bipolar kids with other diagnoses thrown in for good measure! Borderline personality disorder is one. I love my kids dearly, but I am so stressed because of dealing with their roller coaster crap I am very close to severing all ties. My problem is there are many grandkids involved, one I am raising. My daughter is really a difficult person for me to deal with. She is manipulative, very narcissistic, and a user of people, and I frankly am tired of giving to her constantly. I am tired of her living in my home and drawing her disability money while her husband works SOMETIMES…, but they keep having kids!
My house is turned upside down since she is pregnant AGAIN and off the meds. She is lazy, and has a horrible sense of entitlement. When you try to talk to her about it of course she is NASTY! I work full time and am just totally worn to the point of exhaustion because she refuses to pick up after herself or the kids.
My sons do not live in my home, but they play the relationship off and on game with me, and I am tired of it. If they get mad, they sever ties for 5 or 6 months, then they get over whatever made them mad (usually it’s when they are either in a manic phase and doing drugs or other dangerous things and I say something that they do this).
My ex husband was diagnosed about 4 years ago with bipolar disorder, and he also has the borderline personality type traits. My kids are not only draining me emotionally, they have cost me so much money my head swims. I don’t think I can take it anymore. I cannot seem to find other parents with the same issues to talk to. I myself am becoming very depressed because these kids are making me ill. They refuse to stay on meds, they continue to wreak havoc constantly, and they are 31, 27, and 25 years old now. I feel I can no longer deal with the situation at hand, and I just want a little peace in my life. Any suggestions out there?